Amidst the planning and the shopping and the many stressful things, taking a minute to be with the things you wish were different can be incredibly healing and supportive.

In this post, I share some simple steps for taking a few minutes to be with the wishes that you know won't come true; at least not right away, or in some cases, ever.

It never crossed my mind during the many times that I held my crying baby, in such a way that she might know with all of her being that I could hold whatever was hurting inside of her–that I was preparing myself to offer the same steadfast closeness and holding to my dad as tears rolled from his eyes in his last conscious hours.

What if the problem was just as much about the culture of healing that was lacking in our childhood homes, as it was about the actual wounding that we experienced there?

Enjoy the deep connection with our children that so many of our parents missed out on with us.

How we heal through holding and allowing ourselves to be held

Old traditions can make us forget that we have the choice to create. What new stories are you writing for your family?

It’s not about being perfectly healed for our children

How overwhelm can be a path to connection and belonging.

But what kind of hard, exactly?

If you find yourself worrying about the “right” time and way to wean your child, that makes sense. But do you know how to ensure that all of the feelings that come up for yourself and for your child during this transition, will be held in a way that strengthens their sense of self and trust in the relationship with you? In a way that prepares them to turn towards themselves with care, and opens their heart to receiving support from others when life gets hard in the future?

Replacing patterns of repression with patterns of healing

It’s not always so easy to do